Sitting on the back of my assistant teacher’s scooter, I watched as the city gave way to hills and jungle-like vegetation visible through the gaps between buildings. We climbed steadily onward as our caravan neared the bride’s parents’ house. The wind played with my pencil-thin black tie, a smart addition to the formal wear I had on. After some debate as to where the house was located, we finally turned down a side street dotted with festive cars sporting red bows for the occasion. I felt excited at the opportunity to experience a small piece of Chinese culture.
Inside, we were warmly greeted by the bride’s parents who were all to eager to welcome us foreigners into their home. Smiling from ear-to-ear, they ushered us towards the stairs where we began our ascent to the bride’s chamber. She sat calm and collected on her bed as two make-up artists bustled around her like busy bees trying to put the final touches on their handiwork. A TV set at the base of the bed, sat absently creating a drone of indistinguishable noise. The bride looked lovely in an ethereal sort of way. To be white is to be beautiful as the Chinese say. Her pale face greeted us and we sat down to await the arrival of her future husband and his family.
I peered out the window and glimpsed the first set of black sedans arriving. Soon, our chitchatting was interrupted by the rat-a-tat-tat of firecrackers haphazardly thrown in front of the house. Following tradition, the groom announced his arrival by littering the pavement with gunpowder and bits of red paper from the exploding noisemakers. We gathered in the living room to observe the short-lived ceremony. Future in-laws exchanged gifts of fruit as the bride’s parents served rice-ball pudding to the groom’s family in a gesture of respect. Soon, a hush fell over the wedding party signaling that it was time for events to proceed. The bride’s mother and father sat facing the groom’s family. Both groom and bride knelt before her parents before the bride began to speak. Her voice betrayed sadness as she announced her intention to depart from their home forever. Through tears and traditional words of blessing, the bride’s parents entrusted the groom with their beloved daughter. He promised to protect her and be her guiding light while she was away from her family. On the mantelpiece, incense burned in front of a golden statue whose gifts of fruit surround him in his miniature opulence. The gods, too, imparted their blessing on the two lovers.
In a confirmation of the couple’s decision, the wedding party piled into the waiting vehicles in a procession that would lead to the groom’s house. The 15 min. ride was marked by silence after my failed attempt to converse with our chauffer, the groom’s older sister. I glanced out the window towards an isolated factory and the river running past its smokestack as we sped across a reinforced concrete bridge meant to withstand typhoons. Upon arrival at the house, we were made to climb another set of winding stairs. The groom greeted us at the top, where many had already gathered in his bedroom to take pictures with the couple as they hovered over the bridal bed. As token foreigners, or the equivalent of sideshow entertainers, we were thrown into a series of group photos with fingers raised in the all-too popular peace sign. Sitting on the edge of the pure white quilt covering their bed, the shy lovers followed tradition by placing rice balls in each other’s mouth with spindly chopsticks. To the amusement and encouragement of all those around, the couple delicately transferred the tasty morsels between their mouths careful not to linger at each other’s lips. Embarrassed and flushed from the physical contact, the two giggled as pictures were snapped by the onlookers.
After the magnificent display of technology and craft, the food began to arrive. Plates bearing the weight of uncooked slivers of fish and lobster were placed on the rotating table accompanied by sprigs of parsley and small dishes of wasabi sauce. Soon, steaming plates of non-descript meats of varying colors and consistencies followed suit. By the end of the twelve-course meal, I had eaten a large quantity of mystery foods that would hopefully pass easily through my small intestine. Meanwhile, the groom’s family had begun to make their rounds, making sur